Window on the Other side

Darkness wouldn't know

let it be in

shadows of fire 

let it blow.

Wait, there is a knock,

guess its his honey,

tangled curly tresses hide 

the show, oh no!

Parched throats and crushed rose,

stars know the story,

of  twin elope, but I see

a window lit other side.

Hanging tresses and lonely eyes,

waiting for new honey

couldn't know how to 

behold, take a breath lady!

And wait for more, its 

rebound timing and not 

the real show.

Shut the window!

-Prabhnoor Narwan Ghumman

Assistant Professor

Chandigarh University

Mohali

So, 30 it is!

Prabhnoor N.Ghumman
Assistant Professor
Chandigarh University
Mohali

Hi ! 

Well, earth is rotating on its axis and so is life! It has always been fascinating to grow up fast when we were in crazy teenage.But then, once we hit thirty, suddenly we are reminded of the biological clock ticking fast and the only wish we have is to go back to our childhood.Relive innocence, relive unreasonable and unconditional love, relive beautiful moments (*nostalgic*).  

But as a realist,I always look for contentment and happiness in every passing moment. I have seen people hiding their age and escaping "responsibility" angles, may be, because of some psychological fear. I want to share with all such people that it's absolutely beautiful growing up for many reasons:

1).One doesn't have to go through blatant and abrupt physical changes.

2).Thirty adds stability to hormones both biologically and metaphorically.

3).You are no more asking for money from your parents or spouse.

4).Space seems like a gift and not "ignorance" which we use to feel in our college days from our partner.

5).One feels good without phone.

6).You are no more bothered about the ugly tags that your "wannabe"friends add on facebook.

7).Facebook? existed once upon a time.

8).You will always have money in your wallet.

9).You will  marry for balance and not just for a fairy tale.
10).Heart breaks can be self regulated.
11).Birthdays take a back seat.
12).You can commit and erase your own mistakes.
13).Suicide seems immature act.
14). News becomes more entertaining.
15). You stop questioning god.
16). Fifty shades of Grey is an "ok" type movie.
17). You no longer crib.
18). You live by the theory "this too shall pass"
19). You stop correcting people.
20). You know the value of appreciation over criticism.

In any case one has more number of reasons to celebrate this new turn in life. So, enjoy life with little bit of grey,silver streaks touching your tresses by the law of nature.

Custom "MAID"

Prabhnoor Narwan Ghumman 

Assistant Professor 

Chandigarh University
Mohali

Day 1

Guddi- Beta main kal nai aungi.

Noor- ok didi no problem!!

Day 2 

Guddi- beta main ap bartan vali rakh lo

Noor- hanji didi theek hai

Day 3 

Guddi- ap roz mere se do teen sabzi banwate ho

Day 4
Guddi on leave
Day 5
Guddi- Didi main nai aungi kal se...


 Hello !!!!!!!!!

Of course, "maid" makes the hottest topic these days and especially after marriage(yes, you heard me right, I got married...ahem!!) Well, right after marriage, more than honeymoon, these days we look for our "custom maid"(read honey). We want them to work for our convenience but, hey wait, now we work for their convenience. We mold ourselves for them to "suit" their schedule.

Sometimes, I feel they are better than the ones who are educated and have "safe" jobs for survival. They can always take an off without cutting off their pay and we the "working women" are at their mercy. I am surprised and would love to know who all are crying fpr  unemployment???!!! After colliding with such maids I feel unemployment is a myth. They simply say NO to what we feel "good opportunities". They are surving well and had been practicing their freedom of choosing "professionally" and that too at their disposal.

Well, on a tragically funny note I feel we need to have a pragmatic approach towards their tantrums. If we want to eat, wash and stay managed, we really need to customise our love for this queen maid. Please choose your maids wisely and then wait for them to make you feel "otherwise-ly"( you can laugh) . They carry high end phones and low end humanity. It's shocking to know they are even lacking basic sense of humanity and work like robots of corporate world. Quantity is key for them and of course, aalu matar can't be ignored, if her mood permits.
Come what may we all look forward to our custom "maid" full of customs and rituals of our Indianness.
Long live Custom "maid"

Guddi it's ok.

Love
Noor
                             

Negative effects of being "over" positive!

Prabhnoor Narwan

Assistant Professor

Chandigarh University

Mohali

Marketing gurus never fail to excite the world by their ways. Right from washing powder to spiritualism. It has covered all under it's claws. Well, sometimes even the "supreme power" needs marketing to find its lost space. But, lately this new found culture of "think positively" has been swinging to extremes. I appreciate that this concept of "positive thinking" has given promising hopes to people by phenomenal law of attraction. I am happy to see people happy around me just by saying "think positive". Let's dissect this thought a bit:

1. Over rated hopes: 
Sometimes things are more dependent on efforts than merely destiny. It's a well known fact that our luck is merely hard work meeting opportunities. If we have done our bit perfectly then we just need to wait for an opportunity which we can grab. Whereas, simply thinking positively and not "doubting" as told be the virtual "scientists" of positive thinking misleads the innocent mind. We must remember to doubt and to question constructively is to grow into a sound being.

2. One way communication is frustrating in itself:
Introspection is a wonderful soul conditioning exercise but if one is made to "feel", "think","talk" forcefully positively within,even when the mind knows the real bitter facts, it becomes really frustrating. It's like banging head on the wall and it's only you who is getting hurt whereas, nothing happens to the wall. I am not against the power of positivity but I am against the unreal, uninformed positive injection and hollow hopes which leads to discouragement, illusions and desperation.

3.Ironical vision and eye opening addition: negative positive 
Even science has been proven it time and again that negative attracts positive and vice-versa. Like poles and charges repel each other. My idea is not to dissuade anyone from positive hopeful attitude but to bring a sense of realism and rationality. One can be doubtful,critical and  unsure of certain situations.

In the end I would like to conclude by saying that it's important to be real. Our primary concern should be to put in our best positive efforts and leave it to the almighty. We must strive for excellence and consistent goal oriented life. It ok to have faith in the "hyperbolic" secret of power and positivity. So, next time if we know some situation or person is shady, kindly don't wait for some secret miracles just by "thinking positively". One must know when to push and pull in life. I guess that's what makes us all human,whose power lies in efforts being made by determination. If an over weight girl or a boy feels that just by "attracting" positivity they can loose weight then they are at risk of failing. Action speaks louder than words. Kindly do more and speak after accomplishment.

Stay blessed!
Noor